The saying baiscally means that to be effective in war you must decieve the enemy at all times. Sympathetic Joy: The shared delight in the good fortune of others when we become aware of it. A person following these precepts cannot help but be for love and peace and against war. Personally, I'm not buying it. This includes creating situations in which the lives or general well-being of another human being are put into peril, with no qualms of doing so if the action will produce the desired result.
We don't see our object of love as a normal human being with flaws. If you are in love with someone, you will do whatever it takes to win that person's love if possible. As of war the aim is to only win. You don't learn to play poker by wagering matchsticks. Then a couple months after that, I broke up with my then girlfriend, and I told her that we had broken up and she responded asking if that meant she had a shot. Lovingkindness: The spontaneous reaction to all beings.
The important thing is to win. Your phrase simply replaced war with basketball, only to be cute and most likely because someone has a passion for basketball. The war aspect can be explained in this way. When you are fighting a war it is important to do what you have to in order to win the war. Love is easy when things are going well, as it's easy for both people to take credit for their contributions to the relationship, but it's when things get tough that love is really tested. Say, there are two people who are unhappily married and suddenly one of them finds the true love of their life. For example, an individual may use somewhat devious means to outmaneuver someone else who is also interested in the one who is adored, possibly by arranging for the competition to get sidetracked at a restaurant across town while the individual meets the adored one at a local park.
It's important to acknowledge that other people's version of what's fair can be valid, even if you don't accept their definition within your own system of values. That is, you do what you gotta do to win in the game of love or way. Otherwise, it is like sending a huge army with automatic guns and tanks to take on a small village, or a football star trying to win over the heart of the prettiest girl in school by competing with a guy who isn't that popular. We didn't see each other anymore, but we kept contact. I hear this phrase being used a lot in romantic films. Emotionally its hard to resist the urges to do whatever it takes. As for love, doing all that you can to win the heart of the person of your dreams, and I mean all, is something that is accepted if it is true love.
I was reading your response and I think what you speak of is mostly true, still trying to decide. If all is fair in love, then cheating spouses and manipulation are fair. Nothing is out of bounds when it comes to love and war. The mind looking for a fight. To love is ridiculous, to love is sound. While the competitor waits in frustration for the desired person to arrive, he or she is across town enjoying the company of the perpetrator. Blindness leads to nothing but darkness where we can't see reality.
My answer is purely opinionated, but I guess that's what the question asks for really. Doubt : Self-generated demoralizing thoughts to sabotage faith and trust. Is all fair in love and war? You cannot use atomic bomb to destroy the enemy because your enemy has friends and they have atomic bomb also. Apparently about the time she moved, she broke up with her ex again. However, if we were to have started seeing each other romantically while in another relationship - I do not believe that is right. We all know that when someone uses this phrase, they actually mean that it's okay to cheat.
Sloth and Torpor: A mind state of low energy, looking to fall asleep. Here, the concept may serve to motivate individuals to take chances that they normally would consider unacceptable in exchange for the possibility of winning the heart of the object of their affection. The whole quote to me is the fact that in love there is no winner. However, all of us are self-preserving and find our life extremely precious. Wars are fought for some reason, mostly for the safety of countrymen. A high-energy mind looking for sources of worry.
See, I believe like you, I think here is my standing point. When going for love it is also important to do as much as you can for the people that you love. Usually the quote is uttered when someone is trying to justify bad behavior. A soldier goes to war with the risk that he may not come back. If we reject biological warfare, it isn't out of fairness that we do so, but because we reason that only by rejecting it can we hope to avoid being subjected to it later. Similarly, a soldier accidentally killing an innocent civilian may be termed by some as collateral damage.